Living Thankfully, 4

by teresalaynebennett

photo of Mail email thank-you message

Takes five seconds, max. I am not kidding.

Living Thankfully Tip #4:
let your face and mouth know when your brain
is thinking thankful thoughts,
else the point of Living Thankfully, 3
may not hold true for you.

 

This is just common sense, so I almost didn’t include this post. But since common sense is not so common and thank yous are a bit thin on the ground these days, I decided to soldier on.

When I do something nice for someone who can’t even acknowledge my nice gesture, much less say thank you, this does not give me warm-and-fuzzy feelings for them. It also makes it hard to continue doing nice things for them.

I know. I know. How shallow. But, come clean: don’t you feel the same way? Of course you do. We all do. It’s a hard-wired thing. When you don’t let your face know you’re thankful and you can’t be bothered to say or tap out even a one-sentence thank-you, how are others supposed to know you’re grateful and thankful?

Bad news: they can’t know.

Good news: expressing thankfulness is not hard.

  • It’s painless. Contrary to what you might have been told, thank-yous and compliments won’t burn your lips as they pass over them. (I know 50-100 people who give compliments as if there’s no tomorrow, and not one of them suffers from lip burns.)
  • It takes almost no time. Verbosity is unnecessary. Short-and-sweet works.
  • It’s easy. Forget brain-drain, lyrical gushiness. Simple sincerity is sufficient.

So, choose from:

  • texting “THANKS!”
  • Facebook-ing “Big thank-you to ______ for _______!”
  • Tweeting “Big thank-you to ______ for _______!”
  • emailing “_____, thanks for the _______. It’s just what I need!”
  • calling (you know – two people get on their phones at the same time and talk to each other?) and describing how much you appreciated his help on ________.
  • writing a hard-copy note or card (yes, you can still buy stamps and yes, the USPS will still deliver your mail) with two sentences: “Aunt Anne, the photo from France is SO cool. It’s on my dining room wall. 🙂 Thanks!”

See how easy this is?

Pay attention: I don’t care – and neither do the do-gooders in your life – which one you use. JUST PICK ONE.

THEN DO IT.
DO IT NEXT WEEK,
AND THE NEXT WEEK,
AND THE NEXT WEEK,
TILL IT’S A HABIT.

Living thankfully will be even yummier, I promise, once you start TELLING people you’re thankful.

Have you thought of other reasons living thankfully is just plain good for us? Thought so. Why not share them with the rest of us?

© 2014, Teresa Bennett

red box with white text: “Silent gratitude isn't much use to anyone.” – Gladys Bronwyn Stern

Take time to TELL people you’re thankful.